28 October 2020

What is the meaning of mea culpa? Fun to learn

Learning something new every day is exercise for your mind. So today I learned the meaning behind Mea Culpa, the Latin meaning for - well watch the video and learn.

09 October 2020

Are you drinking too much? Is one glass becoming a bottle?

 #drinkingtoomuch #alcohol 

Are you drinking too much?   Is one glass becoming a bottle?


Are you becoming more dependent upon alcohol to feel better, escape, or just cope with situations?  If so, I can help.


Drinking is often seen as a way to relax or have fun.  We think of celebrating an event or socializing, and our treat at the end of a long day.   However, at some point, we realize the fun of drinking has stopped but now you can’t stop – the classic, “I won’t drink tomorrow”, or “I’ll only just have one tonight”.


Alcohol’s addictive nature creates a false sense of belief in the benefits we get from it.  It doesn’t matter if you think you feel more relaxed or believe it gives you more confidence, because in reality, too much alcohol creates a worse feeling the day after…and so the cycle starts.  


Don’t get me wrong, alcohol in moderation is great, and there are even some health benefits.  I am only referring to the “I know I’m drinking too much and I can’t seem to control it”.  You even forget how you managed other times without it, but that too is significant – because you did!


All patterns of behaviour are learned by repetitiveness and association.  It can start from too much socialising, just one with dinner, or boredom.  The good news is that you can learn a new way to control your drinking, and figure out a way to occupy your time in a healthy and more constructive way.


MAIN POINT – I do not want you to have to stop drinking, I want you to have the control back.

We focus on the benefits of having that control.  It is basically what you want.  To be able to drink but without the constant over indulgencies.  We focus on all the benefits you will gain from taking back the control.


Call me.  We’ll talk about it.  Together we’ll create a positive way forward for you.

27 February 2019

Kitbull | Pixar SparkShorts

@disney.pixar does it again with making you #smile, feel #happy, and gives #inspiration

ENJOY every moment!

30 November 2018

3rd and final BIG EVENT POST - Cancer

My mom’s cancer has returned.  This time it is different, in that they can’t offer any treatment to her due to her lack of strength and where it has spread.

We try to stay positive under the circumstances but she has had a month of “one set back after the other”.  You wouldn’t even believe me if I were to recount it all, but the significant set-back was a fall due to the medication she was first given that made her unsteady. She broke a rib and hurt her spine.

It is important to keep her spirits up, but your own as well.  I suggest the following to help keep your head in a good place.

·     Ask people to pray and send good thoughts to her.
·     Pray or ask the universe to send healing to her and yourself.
·     Light a candle and think of your best memories together.
·     Light a candle at your church and have 15 minutes of quiet time.
·     Go for a walk to be surrounded by air and light.
·     Listen to happy music.
·     Watch funny films.
·     Never give up hope and know that you are stronger than you think.

Best wishes to all and I hope we kick cancers butt soon.


29 November 2018

2nd of 3 BIG EVENTS POST - Kitchen Extension

The second big event was a kitchen extension, which I have wanted to do for the last 10 years.  I was always frightened by the cost and disruption.  Part of it was practical, and part was my own fearful imagination about, “how am I going to cope with no kitchen, the expense, and all the chaos?!”. 

One of my mentors for hypnotherapy asked me, “How did you manage to get through other difficult times in your life?”.  The answer is simple, and applies to all of us, “I just found a way and did it”.  You will always find a way and sometimes it is our own determination, and other times, it is with the help of others.  Anyway, I did manage it and I had lots of supporters.

My builder was excellent.  Not only in his work, but payment schedule.  Barclay’s “lost” a transfer of money from my US account to help pay for it, and even though I had savings to draw on, the money was missing for 6 weeks! I kept my builder informed, and he really wasn’t bothered as he could see that I was doing everything possible to get Barclays to find my missing money (which is now with the Financial Ombudsman, and it finally arrived in the final week of the works finishing.   

My neighbours helped us out with using their washing machines (can you imagine to have the privilege to live on a street where I was able to take my laundry to 7 different houses in rotation – plus one neighbour went on holiday for a week and gave me the keys to their house.  AND the other nice thing is I had offers from another 5 neighbours!).  They didn’t just let me use their machines – they folded the laundry when it was finished.

Besides doing laundry, we were offered meals.  We had several Sunday lunches at friends and neighbours houses.  We are truly blessed.

So, don’t be afraid of the challenge.  You will always find a way.  I promise.