How is the recession affecting our children?

by Marygrace Anderson DCH, DHP, AICH, NCH, GHR Reg

My phone is ringing off the hook, but lately, something has changed. My clients no longer just refer friends to me; they refer their friend’s kids! As parents we protect our children as much as possible, but sometimes, we unintentionally, transfer our fears to our kids.

I am sure you or a partner has discussed the economy and the worry of “being made redundant” or “hating your job” or “wanting to find a new job”, forgetting that your words are being overheard by your children. Our kids then use their creative little minds and begin to share in your worry. This unknown worry can create stress, sleepless nights and lack of concentration on schoolwork, low self-confidence and mild depression. They see you upset and the common response is to share that feeling. They don’t have to see something, to still fear it.

So what can you do?

• Talk to them directly and reassure them that all is fine.
• Let them know the positive side the change could bring.
• Reassure them that you are ok and they don’t have to worry about you.
• Ask them if there is anything you can do to help them if they are not sleeping, feeling stressed, or feeling less confident.
• Get a friend or person at school to talk to your child. Sometimes it is easier to tell things to another adult they feel comfortable talking to when they don’t want to share will mum or dad.
• The points are for adults as much as kids. If you are going through a hard time or might be facing a change of circumstances, embrace it and find the positive side. Life is too short to spend it in constant stress or fear of the unknown. Take action and you will feel more in control.

Whatever is your situation, Marygrace Anderson, can help you constructively and positively manage it and change it from a negative back to a positive! There is no magic “right time to make a change”. The important thing is to know what you want to do and how to take steps to get there.

Right now, think back to all the “hard times” you have had in your life and how funny it is, looking back, you don’t think it was that bad now. Letting fear or other people’s negative beliefs stop you is what is what I would consider truly scary. We truly can do whatever we want, make any change, or make a new start, just by taking one step in that direction! Do it now!

For more information, you can contact Marygrace Anderson on 07931 547 414 or visit the MG Hypnosis website.

Never stop learning

I really think it's so wonderful to be able to learn new skills, languages, and be able to re-train in a whole new career you never thought possible. My background was always in facilities and office management. I went to see a hypnotherapist and had that “WOW” experience and decided there and then I was going to become a hypnotherapist as well.

If you have a WOW experience with something you love doing, then go after it. Life is too short not be following your passions and the things that make you feel wonderful for being able to do them.

Hobbies and interests can become your career – you just need to investigate how to make it possible.

Happy Halloween

Halloween

by Marygrace Anderson

Halloween is a great time for me. One, I love it – seriously I am a pumpkin every year. It makes me happy and people who see me. Second, I get a lot of people who what to get over phobias. Don’t get me wrong. I get a phobia sufferers all year round, but around Halloween, there is an increase in fear of spider, kids with fear of the dark and separation from parents issues. Also claustrophobics and fear of flying is also common now (people getting ready for Christmas flights I suspect). Anyway, the majority over come their fears in 1 session. So do yourself a favor and get rid of the stupid phobia now. So you can enjoy Halloween next year with out it.

How long will the grieving last?

Sounds a little silly but my cat of 17 years is slowly fading away. It will be like losing a member of the family. I will shed big tears but I also know he’s had a good life and take comfort in that thought. The reason I share this with you is that a lot of people who come see me after they have lost a loved one, and do not know that the normal average grieving time is a year. This is because we go through the holidays and birthdays and other big events thinking about them. I just wanted to remind those who have lost a love one, time will help you and it’s okay to still cry weeks, months, and years as you remember them in your thoughts.

Peace be with you.

 Marygrace